Note: This blog post is a sponsored conversation written by Lynn Smythe, the Founder and Chief Blogger for The Creative Cottage lifestyle blog. The opinions, thoughts, ideas and text are all mine.
This post explores the world of submissive and dominant, or Subs and Doms, sexual relationships. Since I don’t have any personal experience to draw on regarding this subject (or maybe I’m just not ready to put it out in public) I’ve decided to share a conversation I had with a friend a few years ago.
Sexuality in the modern world can take on an entire variety of forms from LGBTQ, heterosexual, pansexual and more. I remember talking to a high school friend of mine about 10 years ago, and how she was struggling to make ends meet with her full-time day job. I believe she was working as an insurance agent, so her income was primarily commissioned based. To supplement her irregular sales income, she decided to take a side job as a part-time dominatrix.
I was a bit confused at first because I knew she was living with her boyfriend at the time. But she assured me, it wasn’t anything like what I thought as there was no S-E-X involved. She mentioned how it was more of a role playing game and her best clients were men that had quite powerful day jobs (captains of industry and all that) but I guess for whatever reason they enjoyed a few sessions of humiliation. This made more sense after I did a bit of research on the subject as I was writing this post.
In an article published on the Psychology Today website, research psychologist Scott A. McGreal mentions the idea that people who are into this type of lifestyle enjoy exploring roles that are the opposite of their day-to-day roles. He says, “Those who are accustomed to ordering people around are attracted to the submissive role. The thinking behind this is that such people like to have a way of compensating for the pressure of command and experiencing a sense of relief from the burden of being responsible for others.”
It was the whole “your mistress awaits for you” fantasy scenario that they were attracted to. We didn’t really go into the details of what my friend provided her clients during a typical session, that was probably way TMI for my liking.
Yes Please, May I Have Another
Female domination in a relationship explores different power dynamics. Men with submissive tendencies are often interested in dating women that take on a more dominate role. This type of role playing can be extremely liberating with some men expressing a deep desire to be bossed around.
And as my dominatrix friend confirmed, S/D relationships often have nothing to with sexual pleasure. In an article I read on The Daily Dot, Tiffany Diane Tso mentions, “While the D/s relationship can be physical and/or sexually intimate, physical contact is not necessary for domination and submission, which may be conducted digitally or over the phone as well.”
So, the whole sexting thing is one way to explore this type of subs and doms relationship and decide if you’d like to take the next step and meet someone in person. If finding a mistress or master is on your list of fantasies, there are many online sites that you can join to find a dom or dominatrix near you.
If you are looking for mistress dating, there are literally hundreds of domineering women in your area ready and willing to take control and let you know who’s the boss. To find out where they are or what they offer, take your search online to discover the best place to find FemDoms to meet all your erotic fantasy needs.
I’m still not sure how my friend’s boyfriend was okay with her being a part-time dominatrix, but to each his own. Perhaps he got a discount on her subs and doms special services!?!
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