Note: This blog post is a sponsored conversation written by Lynn Smythe, the Founder and Chief Blogger for The Creative Cottage lifestyle blog. The opinions, thoughts, ideas and text are all mine.
If your love life has become a bit mundane or even a bit stale, then you may be thinking about role-playing or certain fantasies you and your partner could act out in the bedroom.
Have you ever thought of exploring the world of dominant and submissive sexual relationships? BDSM, or bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, involves a variety of erotic practices and roleplaying.
Fifty Shades of Maybe
If after reading Fifty Shades of Grey, or just seeing the movie, has you more than curious maybe it’s time to explore the world of bdsm dates. As with any type of adult dating, mutual consent is key to keeping everyone happy, safe and secure. Healthy relationships, no matter if it’s the plain vanilla kind or includes a bit of BDSM, are all about both partners wanting to please each other.
In an article on this very subject posted to Elite Daily, sex educator Lola Dean says, “There are many things to think about before you dive headfirst into a power dynamic relationship. The control — or lack of control — can be intoxicating, though it comes with much responsibility.”
The dominant person in control is usually referred to as the top or dom, while the submissive person is called the bottom or sub. Any role playing has the potential to get out of hand so it’s recommended you choose a safeword to ensure the safety of all parties involved. This word serves as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end the activity.
Fantasy Role Playing Scenarios
Before you and your partner embark on your next role playing adventure, it’s best to discus in advance what you both expect from the fantasy. Now is not the time to be shy, talk about what you both like and don’t like. You can even create yes/no/maybe list of activities that you would or wouldn’t want to try out.
“Some role play fantasies are inherently about power – the teacher and student, or officer and criminal. One of you has power over the other and can ‘have your way’ with the other” says Paisley Gilmour, sex & relationships editor at Cosmopolitan UK.
Top roll playing fantasies among couples include:
- Doctor and nurse
- Escort and client
- Boss and employee
- Handyman and housewife
- Master and slave
- Photographer and model
- Stripper and client
- Celebrity and fan
- Teacher and student
One key point to focus on – these fantasies don’t have to conform to traditional gender roles. They can be switched up whichever way you want.
Respect and Trust Your Partner
Role play and bdsm is all about the thrill and/or release of power exchange and the respect and trust that are the cornerstones of BDSM. Incorporating this type of role play into your relationship can start off low key – with a bit of kinky phone talk, erotic emails and/or sexting. If all goes well during these initial encounters, then you can decide if you want to take the powerplay into the bedroom.
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